Bride excludes brother-in-law from photos ‘just in case’ of split

Oct 16, 2023

Alex Baker

Alex Baker is a portrait and lifestyle driven photographer based in Valencia, Spain. She works on a range of projects from commercial to fine art and has had work featured in publications such as The Daily Mail, Conde Nast Traveller and El Mundo, and has exhibited work across Europe

Oct 16, 2023

Alex Baker

Alex Baker is a portrait and lifestyle driven photographer based in Valencia, Spain. She works on a range of projects from commercial to fine art and has had work featured in publications such as The Daily Mail, Conde Nast Traveller and El Mundo, and has exhibited work across Europe

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A bride wanted to exclude her sister’s husband from her formal wedding photos due to concerns about a potential future separation. The matter came to light when a Reddit user sought advice on the AITA subreddit regarding her sister’s strange request.

The woman states that there have been no previous issues with her husband, and was confused about how to handle this.

“Yesterday she booked her photographer, and we were going over other people’s online wedding photos together when she made an odd request,” the Redditor writes. “She insisted we take photos in which my husband specifially [sic] does not appear, ‘just in case’. Not girls only, blood only, bridesmaids only- without him, in case we split.”

The Redditor expressed her surprise at the bride’s request. She emphasized that her marriage is happy, and they have a child together. Ultimately, the idea left her hesitant about attending the wedding.

“I was honestly shocked and had to stop myself from suggesting we take photos without the groom then since divorce seems such a likelihood these days, but it’s completely put me off being there at all,” she says.

“We have a child together, we’re married, never said an unkind word to each other. I see no reason to imply we would ever separate,” the Redditor added.

Rude and insulting

Many readers supported the Redditor’s perspective, labelling the bride’s request as “not only rude but deeply insulting.” One Redditor even humorously suggested taking pictures without the groom and other family members “just in case.”

Another reader joked about the bride creating a composite photo with everyone in front of a green screen. This would allow her to adjust the wedding pictures based on the latest relationship updates.

Beware the bridezilla

Weddings seem to encourage all kinds of crazy behaviour. Last year a wedding guest turned photographer deleted all the photos in the middle of the wedding in front of the groom after she was treated poorly.

When emotions start running high, we should always remember to be kind to people: your family, friends, and yes, even those you’re paying. Treat others how you’d like to be treated, and that’s about it, really. A wedding doesn’t give you free reign to trample all over other people.

That, and tip your wedding photographer, they probably need it ;)

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7 responses to “Bride excludes brother-in-law from photos ‘just in case’ of split”

  1. Unmarried Rationalist Avatar
    Unmarried Rationalist

    “A bride wanted to exclude her sister’s husband from her formal wedding
    photos due to concerns about a potential future separation.” seems to be the textbook example of a disturbed mind playing the “my house, my rules” game. Perhaps future husband wants to rethink his decision – “just in case” and what being married to a paranoid weirdo would be like.

    Tip for the photog: Just shoot everyone separately, ideally against a blue screen. You can produces all sorts of compositions later if necessary.

  2. Libby Sutherland Avatar
    Libby Sutherland

    At the last wedding I shot (which was in 2005), which was a frikkin’ disaster by the way, the mother of the bride specifically requested that I not take ANY pics of the father’s new wife. I ignored that request. The bride was paying the freight for the job, not the MOB. My job was to record your event to the best of my ability, not get involved in your family squabbles.

  3. Matthew Toeniskoetter Avatar
    Matthew Toeniskoetter

    Hahaha. Already being a sCrUNT.

  4. Ann O'Loughlin Bertulli Avatar
    Ann O’Loughlin Bertulli

    Well that was just mean, you put people on the end and crop them out if needed.

  5. VELS14 Avatar
    VELS14

    Ridiculous!

    1. If I were the bride’s sister I’d tell her to go stick it where the sun don’t shine.
    2. If I were the photographer, no matter what the bucks involved, I’d say “Pass! I don’t work like that!”

  6. Jane Doe Avatar
    Jane Doe

    Maybe the bride should’ve taken extra shots without the groom in the pics as well. 😜

  7. DAF Photo Avatar
    DAF Photo

    Unless the bride has a crystal ball, the only reason I can see for her irrational request is that the brother in-law cheated his wife with the future bride… And she knows how her sister will react.