Bride asks photographer for a refund after groom’s affair. With second shooter

Aug 7, 2023

Dunja Djudjic

Dunja Djudjic is a multi-talented artist based in Novi Sad, Serbia. With 15 years of experience as a photographer, she specializes in capturing the beauty of nature, travel, and fine art. In addition to her photography, Dunja also expresses her creativity through writing, embroidery, and jewelry making.

Bride asks photographer for a refund after groom’s affair. With second shooter

Aug 7, 2023

Dunja Djudjic

Dunja Djudjic is a multi-talented artist based in Novi Sad, Serbia. With 15 years of experience as a photographer, she specializes in capturing the beauty of nature, travel, and fine art. In addition to her photography, Dunja also expresses her creativity through writing, embroidery, and jewelry making.

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We’ve heard all kinds of crazy wedding photography stories. But are you ready to hear the absolutely craziest one ever? A photographer recently got a refund request from a bride because her husband had an affair… With the photographer’s second shooter. Yikes!

A photographer under the nickname Wedding_dude posted this wild story on Reddit, adding that it happened at a wedding earlier this summer. “My typical second shooter couldn’t make it, so I found someone else online who I felt did good work,” the photographer explained.

He added that he and his replacement second shooter did the wedding without any incidents. “Everything seemed business as usual,” he wrote. They took the photos, then finished the editing after the wedding, and sent the photos to the client. But a few days ago, only a few weeks after the ceremony, the photographer got an email from the bride. This is where it gets crazy.

“She was wanting a refund because the lady I had hired as [a] second shooter for the day ended up sleeping with her husband at some point after the wedding,” the photographer writes. But get this – he says that the bride even included photos from her husband’s phone to prove her claim.

What should the photographer do?

I can’t even begin to discuss how wrong the groom’s move is. Who does that?! But what we’re dealing with here is the photographer – how to handle this situation? “She hired me for a job and the job was completed and [the] product was delivered,” the photographer wrote. “But I also feel like this would be as if I were a professional dog walker who walked a client’s dog, then came back and shot it later.”

“Of course the second shooter is considered a private contractor and not an employee,” he added. Asking how to deal with the situation, Wedding_dude got a lot of comments. But I though I should share the absolute winner: “Offer her a discount on her next wedding.” Despite feeling sorry for this bride, this comment made me laugh really hard.

“I really feel for this lady, but that’s also a lot of money to have to give back for work that was done,” the photographer concluded. Honestly, that really is a serious dilemma, and I’m not sure what I would do. I’d probably try to explain to the bride that I’d still put up a lot of work and a lot of time. Then, maybe I’d offer a partial refund. I get where the bride’s coming from, but I also understand the photographer. He has put a lot of effort and time into producing the images regardless of how the marriage ended. It has nothing to do with him. How would you handle this situation?

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12 responses to “Bride asks photographer for a refund after groom’s affair. With second shooter”

  1. Libby Sutherland Avatar
    Libby Sutherland

    I really just camera news, not tabloid drivel. Why is this story even here?

    1. @AdamQuinnPhoto Avatar
      @AdamQuinnPhoto

      Hey, we’re all competing with Petapixel now!

    2. Richard Tack Avatar
      Richard Tack

      Well, if you’re a wedding shooter, after reading this “drivel,” you may want to instruct your employees to adhere to a hands off the clients policy.

      1. Libby Sutherland Avatar
        Libby Sutherland

        Something that should have been learned from their parents growing up.

  2. Richard Tack Avatar
    Richard Tack

    In my younger days, I had a liaison with a girl who then confessed to her boyfriend. The now very angry boyfriend then wanted to deal out some physical violence. I reversed his thought process this way: “Did she say I raped her?” Ans: “No.” … “So, it must have been consensual.” Ans: “Yeah.” … “And all she had to do was say, ‘No’.” End of conflict.

    The entire fault of the post wedding liaison was the Groom’s; even if he was seduced, all he had to do was say, “No.” Photographer is not at fault whatsoever and should not reimburse a single penny. In fact, the Bride should be thankful that she found out early what a rat she selected for a husband.

  3. @AdamQuinnPhoto Avatar
    @AdamQuinnPhoto

    Full price for this wedding; discount on a second wedding (and promise to do everything reasonable to insure that the second shooter for that one isn’t a cheating risk).

  4. Joey Driver Avatar
    Joey Driver

    No this is more like you took the dog for a walk and the dog came back pregnant.

  5. Mike Shwarts Avatar
    Mike Shwarts

    Groom and second shooter are to blame. Does not matter if the second shooter was a contractor. She could have been the photographer’s employee and only she would be to blame if it happened “off the clock.” You can’t follow your employees and contractors around to make sure they are being good on their own time.

  6. Jay Domino Avatar
    Jay Domino

    What’s the point of commenting when you delete very relevant comments?

  7. Jane Mansfield Avatar
    Jane Mansfield

    How can you expect to bring morality back into the sexual revolution? They removed that years ago. No one can tell anyone right or wrong, so why is this an issue? We are seeing the consequences of the safe-sex, anything goes society. America was founded upon two principles: freedom and responsibility. You cannot have one without the other, yet some believe you can. What you are witnessing is the attempt to be free without responsibility. You reap what you sow.

    1. jazzmsngr Avatar
      jazzmsngr

      Wtf are you talking about? No me can tell anyone right or wrong?? I’m pretty sure unanimously people know this was wrong on the groom. The only question is – because the photographer introduced the second shooter – should he be held liable or issue some kind of refund. The hard answer is no. The husband could have cheated with anyone. This has nothing to do with a loss of morals in America. Some dude is an asshole that’s about it – it’s been going on long before America!

  8. Schuyler Grace Avatar
    Schuyler Grace

    …”at some point after the wedding.” That’s the kicker for me. The second shooter could have been any woman (or man, for that matter) the cheating husband wanted to bed. It’s not like they were making out in a coat closet during the ceremony and reception. And even if that had been the case, the woman’s beef is with her future former husband. She should be asking him for a refund, not the photographer.